I hate assumptions.  I try hard not to assume, not to speak for others, but ah, I really must think before I speak.  Practice makes perfect.  Another cliched saying!

"OF COURSE she'll like it, that's the type of stuff she likes," was in reference to me, about a gift.  Okay, I appreciate the gift even though it's not my thing, but then I immediately appreciated it less after they said that.  I would've just taken it, no other words, and stuck it in my drawer, because some things you just don't need to say, so did that really have to be said?  I got defensive; maybe I shouldn't have, but that just really rubbed me the wrong way.

What happened was that someone went on vacation, brought back gifts, then gave them to their mother to hand out.  Yeah.  So I get the gift, and it's a "Oh, it's cute" sort of reaction, until their mother claimed that her child said, "OF COURSE she'll like it, that's the type of stuff she likes."  I don't know if they actually said that or whether the mother was just saying things, but I hate assumptions like that, about a person, and one that they don't even know very well at that.

That just really irked me.  I was ready to say thanks, but when that came out, I really just couldn't pretend.  I know my face turned sour and/or dour.  I handed it to my own mother, and said, "Here, you take it."  I think the clever circular joke went unappreciated.

I know it made me look ungrateful, I know how bad it came off, but it was my really passive-aggressive way of letting her know that, "No, I did not like it, this is NOT the type of stuff I like."  Would telling her straight up to her face have been any better?  No, the best thing would've been to grin and bear it, but ugh, that just really struck a mean chord (of many) in me.

I try not to assume most of the time.  "Oh, I don't know if you'll like it."  "Oh I wasn't sure, but here!"  That usually sets the bar low, and when they look genuinely surprised, I'm happy.  Of course, I don't give out gifts anymore, because I take too much time considering the gift and the gift I get in response is like a slap in the face.  That sounds shallow, doesn't it?  Also, I have no money.